Oftentimes your first friend is your sibling but that doesn’t occur overnight those relationships must be encouraged and cultivated. We know that raising one child can be a challenge itself, let alone raising two or more. Whatever the trouble was, now it’s double.
Not only do you have to think about raising two or more independent individuals who will be able to continue their lives normally when the time comes for that, but you also have to ensure that your children have a healthy connection with their siblings. Sometimes it occurs naturally, but what happens when the mother nature doesn’t do her job? What happens when you give birth to two absolutely opposites?
Then, it’s up to you to be the middleman in that story. You have to teach them to love each other differences and you have to help them create a bond bigger than their blood.
Be that as it may, you should never let things just be. Observing and reacting (we may also call it interfering) when needed will soon become your main task.
These are some things to pay attention to:
The first tip is to make sure that you don’t play favorites. This is because the children are going to pick up on the favoritism and you might not even realize it.
This is true even if you think in your heart that you have a favorite child.
It is very important that you never let this show when you are around the children. But it is also a good idea to work on doing everything that you can to make sure that you are not going to have a favorite child in the first place.
This is because this type of situation is only going to hurt the heart of your children and leave permanent damage on them.
Looking at it from a psychological aspect, they might develop different emotional issues and you’ll (unconsciously) create a gap between them.
The second tip is to make sure that you encourage the siblings to play together. This is the best way to make sure that the children are going to have a good relationship with each other because they are going to be spending time together.
Of course, there is a chance that they are going to have some arguments with each other every once in a while. There is a chance that you might have to intervene with this to help them to work out any of the differences that they might have with each other.
It might help if you are playing with them also so that you can figure out what is going with them while they are playing.
If there is a big generation gap, than it’s your task to come up with games they can all play and not be bored. Please, don’t leave it all to Internet and TV shows. Make sure they actually have contact.
The third tip is to teach your children to be friends. This is the best way to make sure that the siblings are going to have the type of relationship where they are going to enjoy being around each other.
Of course, this is going to take some time to do but it is going to be well worth it in the end. It will be an investment that will pay off in the years to come.
You need to make sure that they are sharing all of the time but you will need to explain to them how it feels when someone doesn’t share with another child. This means that you will have to teach the child empathy.
Once the child is able to learn this, then they are going to be a lot more caring to their siblings along with other children that they might play with.
The fourth tip is to encourage the children to express affection with each other. This is something that they are going to need to learn while they are young.
This is so that it can become a norm for them. When you help your children with this, you are allowing them to form a habit of being affectionate with other people. It means that they are not going to be uncomfortable when they give each other a hug or say that they love each other.
All families are going to be different so you will need to tailor this based on your family. The main thing that they are going to learn that they care about each other. Therefore, they are going to be closer to each other as they get older.
The fifth tip is to encourage your children to forgive each other. Of course, you know that children are going to argue with you and bicker sometimes. This is just part of having a brother or sister that you grow up with.
It is going to be very important for them to learn how to apologize to each other so that they can work it out. The best way to help with this is to expect them to apologize to each other if they have been unkind to each other.
Most of the time, the children are going to live up to our expectations when they have been taught to.
The sixth tip is to talk with your children about how close they are with each other. This is another place where the children are going to be able to live up to your expectations.
If you expect your children to have a close relationship with each other, then they are going to be a lot more likely to be close with each other. If you think that they are going to dislike each other, then there is a good chance that they are going to grow up not liking each other.
If you expect something positive, then it is the best way to encourage positive behavior among your children. This can be used in a variety of different areas of your parenting.
The seventh tip is to encourage your children to have a unique form of communication with each other.
Most of the time, the siblings are going to have their own way of communicating. They might have inside jokes with each other, have special nicknames for each other, or tease each other.
All of these things are going to be good for the siblings. This is because it is going to make the relationship that they have with each other unique.
You can find a way to let the siblings know that you appreciate the way that they can relate to each other.
When you are trying to raise siblings that love each other as a parent, you are going to need to take an active part and a democratic parenting approach in their life. This helps to make sure that you are showing love to each child and also ensuring that they create a relationship they’re going to be able to maintain on their own as well once they grow up.
My name is Ivana Davies and I’m an educator turned stay-at-home mom to a beautiful 7 year old girl and a playful 5 year old boy. Since I didn’t have a clue about raising kids, I had to learn it all in a hard way. I managed to find so much information online, and that inspired me to turn to blogging to share my experiences and struggles as a mom. Being a mom is not easy. In fact, in can sometimes be pretty isolating. My blog, Find Your Mom Tribe, is here to help you connect with other moms, as well as to share mom hacks, information, and tools to help you on this parenting journey. You can catch up with us on Facebook and Pinterest.