Three Thought Patterns That Lead to Self Sabotage

We can definitely be our own worst enemy. I will be the first to tell you that I have had my share of struggle. Some struggles have been a result of factors that are out of my control. Others have admittedly been self-imposed. The self-imposed struggle bus can be a monster because in most cases you are the driver and the passenger. The first step is acknowledging that you MIGHT be guilty of self-sabotage. This is a reflective post so I will take the pressure off and talk about myself.

There are three thought patterns that I have to acknowledge and tackle consistently in order to be the best me.


Self –Doubt

Struggling with low self-esteem, poor self/body image, feelings of inadequacy, and questioning my own level of competence in certain areas have all been a part of my story.



Planning and throwing pity parties, complaining, playing the blame game, and regularly making excuses. I am guilty of being a negative Nancy and at times a petty Betty.


Self Defense

Being overly defensive, projecting personal issues onto other people, and refusing to let down walls because of my own insecurities.


At times I have attempted to juggle all three of these thought patterns at the same time. Let me tell you, it isn’t possible. It is an unnecessary weight. Changing my thinking is the first step to breaking this pattern but I also have to renew my mind. As a believer the Word of God is my guide.

Why Knowing What God Says About Me Matters

I’ve linked an older blog post here with a few “go-to” scriptures. The Word of God brings so much truth and light into dark places BUT I also have to be a consistent participant in the process. Sometimes I have to do a little self-talk. Other times I have to seek out the counsel or advice of a trusted friend to help me gain perspective. Regardless of the situation, I have learned that taking action is key.

Self-sabotage is real. Let’s commit to taking action to address the issues in our lives that are holding us back!


Danielle Boyd


I'm Danielle. I'm a wife, mother, and educator residing in Durham, NC. I am here to share my take on life through my own lens. I hope that my writing inspires you to live the life you've been given with purpose. Thank you for reading. Feel free to leave questions and comments as I would love to interact with you!

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