Blog Post inspired by Don't Miss It: Parent Every Week Like It Counts by Reggie Joiner and Kristen Ivy

  Don't Miss It: Parent Every Week Like It CountsWe received Don’t Miss It: Parent Every Week Like it Counts by Reggie Joiner and Kristen Ivy in our parent orientation packet last August. Madison’s 3rd birthday was approaching and we had all of the nerves that new parents have when preparing to send their kiddos to a new learning environment. This quick yet profound read is actually the inspiration behind this post. This book  helped to reshape my thinking about this thing called parenthood. While there are multiple nuggets throughout the book, the authors sum up the major principles on the last page. I’d like to share these principles and a few of my thoughts with you.

Don’t Miss It: Parent Every Week Like It Counts

“What you do as a parent every week matters” (Joiner and Ivey, 2016)

The book opens up with a breakdown of weeks per year of a child’s life. It was very sobering to see it broken down this way and to think about the time that has already elapsed in Madison’s three years on earth. I think that it is evident that the first few years of a child’s life are critical and parents play a major role in helping them establish a sense of security and belonging.  While I can’t turn back the hands of time, I am fully committed to intentionally parenting her in a way that aids in her overall growth and development because she will be an adult one day which is crazy to consider at this time.

“When you count your weeks, you tend to make your weeks count.”

The book actually advises parents to create some type of visual to help with the weekly countdown. They used the example of a jar with marbles and the recommendation is to pull out a marble each week, making it ritualistic and focused on a memorable moment from the week prior. I would like to give this a shot but I tend to not be inconsistent when it comes to stuff like this and I will fall off. At the same time, I think that using a visual could lead to some anxiety on my behalf! Making memories is extremely important and we try to find a weekly opportunity to do so AND take pictures.

“If you want to influence your child’s future, get to know who they are today.”

Today Madison is a playful, witty, caring, and social three-year old. I often find myself wondering how these characteristics will evolve over time. I won’t mention the characteristics that drive her father and I nuts and that I hope she will grow out of. We will focus on the positive and pray on the rest! Ultimately my prayer is that she will grow into a Christ-fearing woman with a healthy sense of who she is and how she can contribute to the world around her through her gifts and talents. I know that I am responsible for helping to steer her through her journey to adulthood.

 

“It’s just a phase, don’t miss it.”

This runs counter to the way that we think as parents especially when our little angels aren’t acting very angelic. This principle really resonated with me because I realize that I have to place value on EVERY minute with this little person even the challenging minutes. So I’m encouraging all parents to get into whatever phase your kiddo may be in at this time!

I went out of order with how the authors summed up the book but I felt that this principle helps me to wrap up my reflection:

“The clock is ticking, time keeps moving. But you get the choice to make history as a family EVERY WEEK.”

Parenting is challenging but it can also be very rewarding. I’m amazed at how time flies and how the chunky baby that we bought home in late August of 2015 is now a walking, talking, semi-independent three-year old!  God has blessed us with the opportunity to help guide a part of his greatest creation into the destiny that he has designed for them. What an awesome responsibility!