Hi, my name is Felicia and I am learning how to overcome the fear of uncertainty. Over the past year, I have been on a journey of valleys, mountains, valleys, and did I mention valleys. If there is one thing that I have learned it’s that life is full of uncertainties and moments in which you have no clue which way to turn. Well friend I have learned a few lessons along the way that I hope will help you through life’s certain uncertainties.
I remember it was a Friday in March and I was called into my new boss’s office. I was feeling pretty confident because I just knew that my work and reputation would speak for itself so my job was safe. Well as the meeting concluded it finally dawned on me that they were not going to renew my contract. My new boss wanted to start afresh which meant I was out the door. I went back to my then office and just stood in the middle of the floor. I was fired. I felt helpless, numb and the fear of uncertainty gripped my heart. This seemingly perfect world that I had built was now crashing and burning. So I had no job and no clue what was next. The only thing I knew to do was to call my husband.
For the believer, prayer is a vital part of our relationship with the Father. Prayer doesn’t have to be complicated or scripted. My prayer that day was simply, “Lord help me”! The fear of uncertainty had a grip on my heart, mind, and soul and I needed to be rescued.
Remember prayer is simply communication between you and your Heavenly Father. He wants to hear from you and we need to hear from Him. As believers, we see that Jesus was always communicating with his Father. He would sneak away from the disciples and crowds to receive instruction, encouragement, and to be filled up so that he can continue to care for others. I imagine that they discussed everything! That is so encouraging because our prayers should be about everything.
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. I Peter 5:7
Pray continually. I Thessalonians 5:17
I believe he tells us this because of l all the ups and downs that life brings. So whenever a feeling a doubt, uneasiness, or fear tries to grip you get quiet and go directly to your Father. He’s waiting.
I remember when I was fired from my job, I was so embarrassed and mortified. I did not want to see anyone or speak to anyone. That dynamic created an awesome opportunity to remove distractions. Distractions such as social media, text messages, phone calls, group chats and did I say social media. Now let me be clear I’m not saying shut yourself off from the world. I am encouraging you to create space for praying, thinking, decompressing, and breathing.
The fear of the unknown can cloud your ability to make great, rational decisions. Usually, if I am uncertain about something I want to rectify the situation as soon as possible. Oftentimes we need to take a step back to reassess before we make a decision. Many times we do not allow ourselves to do that because of distractions. Those things vie for our attention when what we really need is laser-sharp wisdom and guidance. The main thing that we need when facing uncertainty is wisdom from our Heavenly Father. The only way that we can receive it is through intentional time spent in the Word and prayer. Decide to put first things first!
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the in that so easily entangles. Hebrews 12:1
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:5
Continue to dream and plan
I remember feeling like my goals, dreams, and aspirations were destroyed when I got fired. Fear of uncertainty can cause you to stop and feel stuck. Why? You are not sure what to do. There might be skepticism or anxiety swirling around your next steps. Fear hinders forward progression, while faith causes us to move forward. It was during those days of uncertainty that I had to choose to continue to keep going. There were moments when I just wanted to hide under the covers but my faith in Christ kept me going.
Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1
I had to remind myself to revisit my aspirations. I could not allow one setback combined with fear to prevent me from putting one foot in front of the other. Dreaming, planning, creating are the antithesis of fear. Friend if you feel stuck because you are unsure of your next move or fearful of what might happen…..grab a pen and paper. I want to encourage you to get quiet, remove distractions, pray, and dream. Dream big and write down where you want to go, who you want to be, and how you’re going to get there. Don’t stop…keep moving!
Put your trust in the Lord
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6
These words are so true and it is one of my life’s mottos. I thought I was trusting the Lord but it wasn’t until I felt like I hit rock bottom that it was tested. During those days I found myself questioning why this happened but immediately I was reminded that He was with me. Christ never left me and because of that my trust and dependence on Him grew. I had to trust that He had my next steps planned even when I couldn’t see it. Trusting means that this is part of my story and He is the author. The good news is that He is still writing my story.
Trusting the Lord means surrendering my will in exchange for His. I had to give Him my fears, frustrations, disappointments, anger, and anxiety. In exchange, I received peace, love, joy, and a friend who is with me through the good, bad, and in between. The messy middle is where I found Him doing his greatest work in my life. The challenge, setback, or disappointment is an opportunity for growth and deepening our relationship with Christ. Trust that he is drawing us closer to Him, developing character, removing bad habits, and preparing you for greater!
Life happens and oftentimes it leaves you wondering how could this happen and what’s next. During those moments I want to encourage you to not allow the fear of uncertainty to overwhelm you. Instead, look and cling to Christ. He is always with you and will carry you through to the other side.