“My friends, real friends, better than your friends.”

If you aren’t familiar with the above referenced song,  it’s from my girl Beyoncé.  Of course, very fitting with the topic of friendships for this month. Friendships are something I hold very dear. My mother would always tell me “if you show yourself friendly, you will make friends.”  Throughout my twenty-three years of living I’ve seen friends come and go. Many things come into play when friendships die off. Personal growth and school were my main factors. After high school the transition began and my mind was focused on the next step. Yes, it was sad leaving behind my friends; those who I’ve known for a long time, but more upsetting because I knew this would be the last time I see most of them. However, a part of life is growth and moving on.

Going into college I made some friends but more associates. Friendships in college are wonderful but testy. Entering college most of us are still teenagers and graduate as emerging adults. During those hard times during college, you really see who is truly there for you. The friends we start off with in college during freshman year may not make it to our senior year.

Things happen, priorities change, different views can all play a huge part. Yet, its apart of life. I can say each friend that I’ve had in my life has taught me  things about myself. My closest friends have seen me at my best and worst. They’ve prayed for me, encouraged me, loved me and allowed me to be myself. Each friend is unique and requires different attention and or events. Sometimes its hard to talk about friendships because mine are so different, but they each serve a purpose in my life.

As I’ve gotten older, I’m okay with my five good solid friends. I don’t need a whole clique like in high school, because  majority of those “friends” weren’t for me. Not only am I an adult now but more mature. Your friends in each age range should be a representation of you and your personal growth. Regardless of the years you’ve know your best friend, if they haven’t grown or want to see you grow its time to let them go. Real friendship is being able to be truthful with one another, genuinely love one another, promote growth and responsibility; the list could go on. I’m thankful for my friends and what they bring, friendships are needed every day.

Knowing that you have someone to call on or see is always a great feeling.  

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