Forgiveness: His Way

Forgiveness. This is a word that stares you right in the face. You can deal with it face to face or bury it deep down hoping that the situation will just take care of itself. I have been sitting on this topic for some time because I was doing a lot of burying.  After reading https://hiddentreasuresandriches.com/2017/08/19/forgiveness/ I didn’t feel like I was the only struggling.  Staring forgiveness in the face; I decided to make a choice.  I could forgive and move on or hold a grudge and remain stuck. Overtime I have decided to forgive and I wanted to share my journey in hopes that it would encourage you.  

Forgiveness starts with Him

As believers Christ calls us to forgive those who hurt us. He even goes as far to say pray for those who use you. Why would He ask us to do that? Doesn’t He understand the amount of pain that I have suffered? They don’t even deserve my forgiveness. The answer is simple….He forgave me and not just once but continually.  The beauty of our relationship with Christ is that He has models how we are supposed to act and react on this Earth. As a result He would never tell us to do something that He hasn’t already done. We must forgive because not only did He say so but because He did it.  I was reminded of this while reading https://www.in-due-time.com/faith/choose-to-forgive/.  To make it personal: God forgave me so I must forgive others.  

Forgiveness is a choice

The first step in our journey is making a choice to forgive. I can remember having a conversation with a friend and saying “I do not want to forgive her”.   I said “I am hurt so it not my job to forgive”.   As days went by, even weeks, instead of feeling better I felt weighed down and miserable. I knew that the root cause was bitterness – a direct result of unforgiveness.  Ephesians 4:31-32 says “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.  Be kind to one another tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.”  In https://gettinghealthyall4hisglory.com/draining-the-poison-of-bitterness/ Kim Smith reminds us that bitterness is poison and that is must be drained from our lives.  I could chose to walk around bitter or rest in His love and forgive.  

Forgiveness is freedom

John 8:36 says “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed”.  How did the Son set us free?  By dying on the cross for our sins which then bridged the gap between us and the Father.  Freedom for us started with forgiveness.  If Christ had not died for our sins we would be buried in guilt and shame.  These are things that weigh us down and inhibit us from enjoying true fellowship with the one who created us.  Just like we are to forgive those who have wronged us we need to forgive ourselves for things that we have done.  We are not perfect but our Heavenly Father is and he knows that we will need His grace in our lives.  Rest in His unconditional love and grace.  Romans 4:7-8 says “Blessed are those whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered.  Blessed is the one whose sin the Lord will never count against them. Let’s not allow unforgiveness to prevent us from living freely in relationship with Christ and with others.

Forgiveness is constant

The only way that we can constantly forgive is to renew our minds and to change our thinking.  Of course this begins and ends with scripture.  Philippians 4: 8 says “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.  Oftentimes when we are hurt or when we hurt others we tend playback those situations which leave us paralyzed or stuck.  Romans 12: 2a says ” Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind”.  We must change or thinking and hold onto truth spoken to us in the Word.  We are not defined by our past and whatever has been done to us cannot stop the love or will of God.  Chose to love.  Make a decision to forgive and keep living.

Final Word

Check this words out from Gillian Isles.  Be encouraged…http://islesgilian.com/dear-seeker/.


Felicia Tucker

Hi, my name is Felicia Tucker and I am a wife and mom of three. My world consists of fostering a healthy marriage and nurturing my children while integrating that into my career. It is never a dull moment! I am learning how to enjoy the small moments, not sweat the small stuff and go to sleep with the toys strewn over the living room floor.

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