Wife Life Guest Blogger Series
Guest Blogger: Shilene Aaron
As I embark on the 7th year of marriage, I can’t help but think about all the high’s, the low’s and the in-betweens. Some days were all that and other days, tuh, I wished I was single….I’m just saying. I’m keeping it real. My marriage has not been a fairytale and I don’t portray it to be. After the Wedding and honeymoon comes the after-party and real life situations that will test your commitment to each other. Marriage has been a daily act to keep working on us and choosing to love each other.
In case you’re wanting to embark on the marriage life. Let me share with you 6 things I’ve learned along this marriage journey in my 6 ½ years as a married woman.
1. After God, keep each other first. Don’t give room for anyONE or anyTHING to come between you two. Whether it’s your children, parents a hobby or a job. Your spouse comes first!
2. Respect your Spouse as you want to be respected. Always have your spouse in mind when making decisions or agreements. My husband and I touch base with each other when making decisions that affect each other and our family. It’s not asking for permission, it’s out of respect as you’re not only responsible for yourself and Marriage is not all about you.
3. It takes two / both husband and wife to make the marriage work. 100/100 ALL IN!!! Marriage is not a one-sided agreement. You both vowed to love and care for each other, not one always giving and the other doing all the receiving. There may be times when one is down and the other might have to kick in and do a little more but majority of the time you both should be working to make the marriage work.
4. Keep others out of your marriage (mom, dad, siblings, in-laws, best friends etc), people will always have something to say from the outside looking in. Some will give unsolicited advice or opinions and others will give wise counsel. Use wisdom to discern who’s for you and who’s against you. Take the advice that works for you and leave the rest there. The less they know, the better. Period.
5. Everyone’s marriage is different. Don’t compare your marriage to another, don’t compare your spouse to another. You have no clue what they are dealing with behind the scenes or what they have had to deal with to get to the place they are now. Take inventory of your own marriage and do what’s best for you and your spouse.
6. Love is a daily choice. You chose each other as husband and wife and you will always have to keep choosing each other as long as you’re married. Like anything marriage requires maintenance and love requires to be refueled, refined and reignited. A flame doesn’t stay lit on it’s own – keep the fire burning.
7. Communication is key. Over communicate to make sure you stay on the same page. Don’t expect your spouse to know what you’re thinking or how you feel. Tell them your plans, thoughts and emotions.
When you don’t know what to do, say, or if you feel like giving up, be still, pray and let God lead you. This has worked many times over for me. Marriage is a beautiful thing when you both are willing to make it work!
Hello, my name is Shilene Aaron and I’m a wife, mother of 4, believer, podcaster and I created The Mama Mogul brand because I’m passionate about inspiring women and especially passionate about mothers. I wanted to create a platform for mothers where they felt comfortable sharing their experiences, struggles and joy within their motherhood journey without judgement. My mission is to offer a community of support & encouragement I wish I had early on in my motherhood journey. You can connect with Shilene on Instagram @themamamogul and please tune into The Mama Mogul Podcast at anchor.fm/themamamogul or any of your favorite listening platforms. If you would like to collaborate please email me at Shilene.email@example.com.